6. DON’T Think It’s Cool to Not Eat
If you think not ordering dinner, or only taking a birdlike bite of your entree will make you appear skinnier, prettier, sexier, or more mysterious, guess what? It won’t. What it will do? Probably not get you a second date.
7. DON’T Sit There like the Queen of Sheba When the Check Comes
Even if you’re of the firm belief that your date should always pay, it’s a mistake to assume they will—especially on the first date. If your date goes for the check right away, offer to split the bill, or at least leave the tip. Your date will probably decline, so make sure you offer to get the cab to the next destination, the movie tickets, or a round of drinks.
However, if you offer to pay or split, be prepared to actually pay or split. Don’t play games. Not offering at all, however, could translate to entitled.
8. DON’T Get Wasted
There’s not much to say here without sounding preachy, but keep this in mind: Having to be carried home by someone you barely know isn’t chic (nor is puking in the cab, doing something you regret, or crying at the dinner table). Sure, a couples of cocktails can be fun and loosen the mood, but knowing your limits—and sticking to them—will help make a stronger first impression.
9. DON’T Not Ask Questions—Just Make Them the Right Ones
A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply ask your date things, although—given the fact that we never know how comfortable others are with casual conversation—that might be easier said than done. The trick to successfully vetting a potential suitor on a first date, while simultaneously keeping the energy light and fun, is knowing what questions to ask, and how to ask them.
For example, work, family, hobbies, pop culture, favorite music—these are all surefire bets. Four things never to ask on a first date? Politics, religion, exes, and income. If you’re savvy, you’ll realize that certain questions–even the most basic ones—have the ability to tell a lot about a person.
10. DON’T Give TMI, Too Soon
Sharing personal details about your life after knowing anyone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Want to get married on the beach in Mexico by the age of 3o and have a baby boy named Henry by the age of 32? Keep it to yourself for now. Similarly, steer clear of personal topics like your contentious relationship with your mother, any ailments you have, or major work woes —all valid, but none are appropriate first date topics.
11. DON’T Stalk After the Date—Social or Otherwise
In today’s world, texting and catching up via social media is a viable means of communication after a date, but there are a few rules we all should follow. If you had a wonderful time and feel like shooting your date a casual text later that night or the next day, go for it.
A good text: “Had a really good time, thanks again!” is fine.
A bad text: “OMG literally had the best time EVER, ur sooooo amazing and I can’t wait to see u again. Wanna do brunch with me and my girls tomorrow??! LMK ASAP xoxox!!!” is not.
In addition, try to resist the urge to follow your date on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, LinkedIn, or any other conceivable social network until you’ve gone out a couple of times. Even in today’s connected world, remaining a creature of (a little) mystery is a powerful thing.
Happy First Date!
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